1154 - أدَبُ المُصابِ‏

1154. The Etiquette of Dealing with an Affliction

3694.رسولُ اللَّهِ صلى اللَّه عليه وآله: النِّياحَةُ عملُ‏الجاهِليَّةِ.¹

3694.The Prophet (SAWA) said, ‘Wailing is an act from the pre-Islamic age of ignorance.’²

3695.رسولُ اللَّهِ صلى اللَّه عليه وآله : مِن كُنُوزِ البِرِّ : كِتمانُ المَصائب والأمراضِ والصَّدَقةِ .³

3695.The Prophet (SAWA) said, ‘Among the hidden treasures of goodness are: concealing one’s afflictions, one’s illnesses and one’s charity [from others].’⁴

3696.الأمالي للطوسي عن عائشة : لَمّا ماتَ إبراهيمُ بَكَى النبيُّ صلى اللَّه عليه وآله حتّى جَرَت دُموعُهُ على‏ لِحيَتِهِ، فقيلَ لَهُ : يا رسولَ اللَّهِ، تَنهى‏ عنِ البُكاءِ وأنتَ تَبكي ؟! فقالَ : ليسَ هذا بُكاءً، وإنّما هذهِ رَحمَةٌ، ومَن لا يَرحَمْ لا يُرحَمْ .⁵

3696. A’isha narrated, ‘When Ibrahim [the Prophet’s son] passed away, the Prophet (SAWA) cried such that tears rolled onto his beard, so people said to him, ‘O Prophet of Allah, you dissuade people from crying and here you are now crying?!’ to which he replied, ‘This is not crying, it is compassion, for he who does not have compassion [for others] will not be treated with compassion [by Allah].’⁶

3697.سنن النسائي عن أبي هريرة : ماتَ مَيِّتٌ مِن آلِ رسولِ اللَّهِ صلى اللَّه عليه وآله فاجتَمَعَ النِّساءُ يَبكِينَ علَيهِ فقامَ عمرُ يَنهاهُنَّ ويَطرُدُهُنَّ ، فقالَ رسولُ اللَّهِ صلى اللَّه عليه وآله : دَعهُنَّ يا عمرُ ، فإنّ العَينَ دامِعةٌ والقَلبَ مُصابٌ والعَهدَ قريبٌ .⁷

3697. Abu Hurayra narrated, ‘A man from the family of the Prophet (SAWA) had passed away and the women were gathered around crying for him when Umar stood up and prohibited them from doing so, and told them to go away from there. The Prophet (SAWA) then said, ‘Leave them O Umar, for verily the eye feels teary [at the moment], the heart is afflicted and the pain of the incident is still fresh.’⁸

3698.الإمامُ عليٌّ عليه السلام عن رسولِ اللَّهِ صلى اللَّه عليه وآله: صَوتانِ مَلعونانِ يُبغِضُهُما اللَّهُ : إعوالٌ عندَ مُصيبَةٍ، وصَوتٌ عندَ نِعمَةٍ ؛ يَعنِي النَّوحَ والغِناءَ .⁹

3698. Imam Ali (AS) narrated on the authority of the Prophet (SAWA), ‘Two voices are cursed and despised by Allah: howling when struck by an affliction, and singing when blessed with a bounty.’¹⁰

(اُنظر) عنوان 64 «الجزع» .

(See also: GRIEF 64)