302. Imām ‘Ali (a.s.) said: “Disciplining is impossible with anger.”1
D) Harshness:
303. al-Kāfi, narrating from Yunus ibn Ribāt from Imām al-Sādiq (a.s.) who said: “The Messenger of Allah (s.a.w.) said: “May Allah bless him who helps his child in doing good.”
Someone asked: “How can he help him in obedience?”
He (s.a.w.) said: “That he accepts as little as the child can do, he forgives whatever he cannot do, he does not overburden him and does not ask him to do things too hard for him, for there is nothing between him and entering a realm of the realms of disbelief other than that he disobeys his parents or cuts the ties of his kin.”2
304. Sahih Muslim, narrating from ‘A'ishah who said: “The Prophet of Allah never hit anyone with his hand, neither any woman nor any servant, except while fighting (jihād) in the path of Allah.”3
305. Imām ‘Ali (a.s.) said, from the wise sayings attributed to him: “Give priority to justice over harshness and you will win love, and do not take action when speaking is helpful.”4
306. ‘Uddah al-Dā‘i narrates that someone had said: “I complained to Abu al-Hasan Musā [al-Kāzim] (a.s.) about my son and he said: “Do not beat him, but just forsake him and do not prolong it!”5
1.. Ghurar al-Hikam, h. ۱۰۵۲۹. ‘Uyun al-Hikam wa al-Mawā‘iz, p. ۵۳۱, h. ۹۶۵۴.
2.. al-Kāfi, vol. ۶, p. ۵۰, h. ۶. Tahdhib al-Ahkām, vol. ۸, p. ۱۱۳ h. ۳۹۰. Mustatrafāt al-Sarā'ir, p. ۸۵, h. ۳۰.
3.. Sahih Muslim, vol. ۴, p. ۱۸۱۴, h. ۷۹. Musnad Ibn Hanbal, vol. ۹, p. ۲۷۲, h. ۲۴۰۸۹. al-Sunan al-Kubrā, vol. ۱۰, p. ۳۲۴, h. ۲۰۷۸۸.
4.. Sharh Nahj al-Balāghah, vol. ۲۰, p. ۲۷۸, h. ۲۰۷.
5.. ‘Uddah al-Dā‘i, p. ۷۹. Bihār al-Anwār, vol. ۱۰۴, p. ۹۹, h. ۷۴.
