1101 - مَن لا يَنبَغي مُصادَقَتُهُ‏

1101. PEOPLE WHOM ONE MUST NOT BEFRIEND

(وَيَوْمَ يَعَضُّ الظّالِمُ عَلَى‏ يَدَيْهِ يَقُولُ يا لَيْتَنِي اتَّخَذْتُ مَعَ الرَّسُولِ سَبيْلاً * يا وَيلَتا لَيْتَنِي لَم أتَّخِذْ فُلاناً خَلِيْلاً * لَقَدْ أضَلَّنِي عَنِ الذِّكْرِ بَعْدَ إذْ جاءَنِي وَكانَ الشَّيْطانُ لِلْإِنْسانِ خَذُولاً).¹

“A day when the wrongdoer will bite his hands, saying, ‘I wish I had followed the apostle’s way! Woe to me! I wish I had not taken so and so as a friend! Certainly he led me astray from the Reminder after it had come to me, and Satan is a deserter of man.”²

3489.رسولُ اللَّهِ صلى اللَّه عليه وآله : لا خَيرَ لكَ في صُحبَةِ مَن لا يَرى‏ لكَ مِثلَ الذي يَرى‏ لِنَفسِهِ .³

3489.The Prophet (SAWA) said, ‘It is not good for you to befriend someone who does not have your best interests at heart as he does his own.’⁴

3490.الإمامُ عليٌّ عليه السلام : مَن لَم يَصحَبْكَ مُعِيناً على‏ نفسِكَ فَصُحبَتُهُ وَبالٌ علَيكَ إن عَلِمتَ .⁵

3490.Imam Ali (AS) said, ‘He who, in his friendship with you, is of no aid to you against your base self, his friendship is a curse on you, if only you knew.’⁶

3491.الإمامُ عليٌّ عليه السلام : اِحذَرْ مُصاحَبَةَ الفُسّاقِ والفُجّارِ والمُجاهِرِينَ بِمَعاصِي اللَّهِ .⁷

3491.Imam Ali (AS) said, ‘Beware of befriending corrupt people, immoral people, and those who openly commit acts of disobedience to Allah.’⁸

3492.الإمامُ عليٌّ عليه السلام : صَدِيقُ الجاهِلِ مَتعُوبٌ مَنكُوبٌ .⁹

3492.Imam Ali (AS) said, ‘The friend of an ignorant man is always wearied and miserable.’¹⁰

3493.الإمامُ عليٌّ عليه السلام : إيّاكَ ومُصاحَبَةَ الفُسّاقِ ؛ فإنَّ الشَّرَّ بالشَّرِّ مُلحَقٌ .¹¹

3493.Imam Ali (AS) said, ‘Beware of befriending immoral people, for verily only evil accompanies evil.’¹²

3494.الإمامُ عليٌّ عليه السلام - في وصيَّتِهِ لابنِهِ الحَسنِ عليه السلام : يا بُنَيَّ ، إيّاكَ ومُصادَقَةَ الأحمَقِ ؛ فإنّهُ يُرِيدُ أن يَنفَعَكَ فَيَضُرُّكَ .¹³

3494. Imam Ali (AS), in his will to his son al-Hasan (AS), said, ‘O my son, beware of befriending a stupid person, for although he will surely want to be of benefit to you, he will only bring you trouble.’¹⁴

3495.الإمامُ زينُ العابدينَ عليه السلام - في وصيَّتِهِ لابنِهِ الباقِرِ عليه السلام - : إيّاكَ ومصاحَبَةَ القاطِعِ لِرَحِمِهِ؛ فإنّي وَجَدتُهُ مَلعوناً في كتابِ اللَّهِ عَزَّوجلَّ في ثلاثِ مَواضِعَ .¹⁵

3495. Imam Zayn al-Abidin (AS), in his advice to his son al-Baqir (AS), said, ‘Beware of befriending one who has cut off relations with his kin, for verily I have seen him cursed in the Book of Allah, Mighty and Exalted, on three different occasions.’¹⁶

3496.الإمامُ الرِّضا عليه السلام : صَديقُ الجاهِلِ في تَعَبٍ .¹⁷

3496.Imam al-Rida (AS) said, ‘The ignorant man’s friend is always wearied.’¹⁸

1100 - مَن يَنبَغي مُصادَقَتُهُ‏

1100. People Whom One Should Befriend

3484.رسولُ اللَّهِ صلى اللَّه عليه وآله : أسعَدُ الناسِ مَن خالَطَ كِرامَ الناسِ .¹

3484.The Prophet (SAWA) said, ‘The most prosperous of people is he who mingles with honourable people.’²

3485.الإمامُ عليٌّ عليه السلام : أكثَرُ الصَّلاحِ والصَّوابِ في صُحبَةِ اُولِي النُهى‏ والألبابِ .³

3485.Imam Ali (AS) said, ‘The most goodness and righteousness is to be found in the company of people of reason and understanding.’⁴

3486.الإمامُ عليٌّ عليه السلام : مَن دَعاكَ إلى الدارِ الباقيَةِ وأعانَكَ على العَمَلِ لَها ، فهُو الصَّديقُ الشَّفيقُ .⁵

3486.Imam Ali (AS) said, ‘The one who invites you to the everlasting abode and helps you work towards it is a compassionate friend indeed.’⁶

3487.الإمامُ الصّادقُ عليه السلام : لاتُسَمِّ الرَّجُلَ صَدِيقاً سِمَةَ مَعرِفَةٍ حتّى‏ تَختَبِرَهُ بثلاثٍ : تُغضِبُهُ فَتَنظُرُ غَضَبَهُ يُخرِجُهُ مِن الحَقِّ إلى الباطِلِ ، وعندَ الدِّينارِ والدِّرهَمِ ، وحتّى‏ تُسافِرَ مَعهُ .⁷

3487.Imam al-Sadiq (AS) said, ‘Do not call a man your friend with the true stamp of friendship until you have tested him in three matters: anger him so that you may see whether his anger takes him away from right into wrong; test him with the dinar and the dirham [in money matters]; and travel with him.’⁸

3488.الإمامُ الصّادقُ عليه السلام : اِصحَبْ مَن تَتَزَيَّنُ بهِ ، ولا تَصحَب مَن يَتَزَيَّنُ بكَ ⁹ . ¹⁰

3488.Imam al-Sadiq (AS) said, ‘Befriend one who gives you a good image, and do not befriend one who uses you to boost his own image.’¹¹