Hadith No. 221

الإمام زين العابدين (علیه السلام): وأمّا حَقُّ وَلَدِكَ فَتَعلَمَ أَنَّهُ مِنكَ، ومُضافٌ إِلَيكَ في عاجِلِ الدُّنيا بِخَيرِهِ وشَرِّهِ، وأَنَّكَ مَسؤولٌ عَمّا وَلِيتَهُ مِن حُسنِ الأَدَبِ وَالدِّلالَةِ عَلى رَبِّهِ، وَالمَعونَةِ لَهُ عَلى طاعَتِهِ فيكَ وفي نَفسِهِ، فَمُثابٌ عَلى ذلِكَ ومُعاقَبٌ، فَاعمَلْ فِي أمرِهِ عَمَلَ المُتَزَيِّنِ بِحُسنِ أثَرِهِ عَلَيهِ في عاجِلِ الدُّنيا، المُعذِرِ إلى رَبِّهِ فيما بَينَكَ وبَينَهُ بِحُسنِ القِيامِ عَلَيهِ وَالأَخذِ لَهُ مِنهُ، ولا قُوَّةَ إلّا بِالله‏ِ.

Imam al-Sajjad (a.s.) said: “The right of your child is that you know that he belongs to you and he is related to you in this world with his good and his evil. You are responsible for teaching him good manners, leading him towards his Lord and assisting him in obeying Him in your rights and his own.

Hence, there will be reward and punishment. Therefore, in regard to his affairs you must act like one who beautifies (helps) himself by having good impact on him (the child) in this world and has accomplished near his Lord his responsibilities between him and his child, that is by looking properly after him and gaining results for him, and there is no power but in Allah.”

Hadith No. 273

رسول الله(صلی الله علیه و آله): الوَلَدُ سَيِّدٌ سَبعَ سِنينَ، وعَبدٌ سَبعَ سِنينَ، ووَزيرٌ سَبعَ سِنينَ، فَإِن رَضيتَ مُكانَفَتَهُ لِإِحدیٰ وعِشرينَ وإلّا فَاضرِب عَلى جَنبِهِ؛ فَقَدِ اعتَذَرتَ الَى الله‏ِ عزّوجلّ.

The Prophet (s.a.w.) said:  “A child is a master for seven years, a servant for seven years, and a minister for seven years. If you are pleased with his upbringing when he is twenty one years old, that is good, and if not, then let him be, for you are excused with Allah.”


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